Recovery, Spirituality and Reasons to Smile

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Step & Tradition Three: Short, Sweet, and Powerful

Step Three

“Made a decision to turn our will and
our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him.

Tradition Three

“The only requirement for A.A.
membership is a desire to stop drinking.”

Step Three has only 20 words. Tradition Three has even fewer: 12. And yet that Step and Tradition have the power to change people’s lives in amazing ways.

The Third Step requires each of us to decide who will run our lives—ourselves, or a Higher Power. For me, it was easy to know that I had made a mess of my life by trying to control people, places and things—including my use of alcohol and other drugs.

The harder decision was to trust my Higher Power, whom I call God, enough to pull my hands off of the steering wheel of my life, so that He could steer me in the right direction. Many days, I have moments when I have to recommit my will and my life to His care.

The Third Tradition makes it simple to know who is a “member” of A.A.—anyone who has a desire to stop drinking.

That means that the chronic relapser who dusts himself or herself off and keeps coming back is just as much a member as the person who remained sober after the very first meeting.

Step Three and Tradition Three are short, sweet and powerful—they are simple, but often not easy. They keep us grounded.

This Spiritual Program Offers More Than Sobriety

The topic of spirituality within the AA Program came up just before the holidays at a Sunday morning Big Book meeting that I co-chair.

AA brochure Many Paths to Spirituality
One source for information regarding how different spiritual beliefs coexist in AA. https://www.aa.org/sites/default/files/literature/assets/p-84_manypathstospirituality.pdf

We were reading “A Drunk Like You,” from pages 398–406 in the Fourth Edition.

That story, written by a Jewish chief product researcher in a large corporation, mentioned “spiritual awakenings,” a Higher Power and the author’s struggle with saying the Lord’s Prayer (which he considered a Christian prayer) at the close of meetings.

His sponsor told him to quietly pray something else that he liked because, “Your Higher Power, whatever you call it, is helping you, and you need to say thank you.”

I could see heads nodding in agreement with the next part of the story, “I finally began to separate the religious aspects of my life from A.A.’s spiritual program. [It’s] about my personal contact with my personal Higher Power, as I understand Him.”

We broke up into smaller discussion groups after my lead, and the individuals within the group that I was in identified with much of the author’s story, my lead, and others’ comments.

I was reminded again how we can be from many different backgrounds, yet find common ground in the important task of staying sober and working the A.A. Program.

While sobriety is such a precious gift to us—in fact, it is life or death—the Second Step and Second Tradition remind us that this spiritual program offers much more than our sobriety.

The Second Step tells us that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity. I know that I didn’t like that word when I heard it early in sobriety. “I’m not insane,” I thought.

It took a while, including thorough Fourth and Fifth Steps, before I learned just how insane my thinking and actions had been.

It helped when I heard that one definition of insane living is to do the same thing again and again, while expecting different results. That was my story with trying to control alcohol and other drugs!

The Second Tradition shows us that the true authority that we need to submit to is a Higher Power, whom I see today as the loving God mentioned in the tradition. I  see how my Higher Power works for the good of A.A. in group discussions and the group conscience.

While I respect and try to work well with other recovering people who lead meetings and various committees around A.A., Tradition Two reminds me that they are not “the boss of me.” God (my Higher Power) is.

The diversity of people from so many different faith backgrounds—of course, including many who do not believe in God—can be such a blessing if we are tolerant of each other. And through working the A.A. Program, I see how I have been blessed so much more than with the great gift of sobriety.

Having Had a Spiritual Awakening as the Result of…

Every day we have an opportunity to grow spiritually. “Spiritual awakenings” are far less common, and are often memorable for their impact. I’ve had two spiritual awakenings: One in Alcoholics Anonymous and one as a Christian.

The First Awakening

Even though I was raised Catholic, by my late teens, I had walked away from organized religion and ran toward a life of alcohol, drugs, occasional sex and a bachelor’s degree from a state university.

The only contacts I had with religion while in college were from an evangelical neighbor in my dorm and a screaming lunatic named Jed Smock, who spewed hell and brimstone a couple of times each year on visits to the university.

Neither contributed to a spiritual awakening in me.

Years later when I admitted I was powerless over alcohol and my life had become unmanageable, I experienced a spiritual awakening in which I became acutely aware of the presence of my Higher Power, whom I call God. That awakening led to me actively communicating through prayer, meditation and everyday conversations with God.

My trust in God increased as I saw people receiving guidance, encouragement and purpose from their Higher Powers. If God did it for them, he could and would do that for me, I reasoned.

In the mid to late 1990s, my wife and I attended church in our hometown. That church had a retreat ministry which we attended. At the second retreat I attended, my Catholic background knowledge of Jesus was refined and became real to me. I knew that day that Jesus did indeed rise from the dead and his life was the way I could receive forgiveness for my sins.

That was my second spiritual awakening. Both are important to me, and my experience is my own—every A.A. member will find their own path to a spiritual awakening. A.A. has no opinion on outside issues and does not affiliate with any sect, denomination, religion or belief.

While my experience is my own, I do hope that everyone reading this is open to examining the concept of a spiritual awakening. Mine opened my eyes and heart. I wish you a similar experience.

Our Tool Kit of Spiritual Principles

Coin from Alcoholics Anonymous that includes AA spiritual principles

This is the back of a coin that I received from the Chicago Office of Alcoholics Anonymous.

The face of the coin features the AA triangle logo with the words “Recovery,” “Unity” and “Service” along each side of the triangle. The phrase “Practice these principles in all our affairs” extends along the top and bottom of the coin’s face.

The meat of the coin is the list of spiritual principles mentioned in A.A.’s main text, “Alcoholics Anonymous”:

  • Acceptance
  • Surrender
  • Faith
  • Open-Mindedness
  • Honesty
  • Willingness
  • Moral Inventory
  • Amends
  • Humility
  • Persistence
  • Spiritual Growth
  • Service

These principles, which we are called to practice in every aspect of our life, are part of the “kit of spiritual tools” that we share with newcomers as we describe how working the 12 Steps has led to us staying sober and recovering from the physical, emotional and spiritual impact of alcoholism.

We use them as measuring sticks to see our spiritual progress. They also convict me when my words and actions fall short. Thankfully, we have been told that “no one among us has been able to maintain anything like perfect adherence to these principles.”

Have you looked at this list of spiritual principles lately? See any that you need to work on today?

Awakening to the Spiritual

The lead in a recent meeting I attended was on the Twelfth Step:

Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to alcoholics, and to practice these principles in all our affairs.

That day my mind zeroed in on the two words “spiritual awakening.” I flipped them and thought about my “awakening to the spiritual.”

We live in a physical world of space and time, but as one member commented after the lead, we are spiritual beings living for a finite time in this world. Your beliefs about spirituality and a Higher Power can be way different than mine. That’s one of the beautiful reasons why the program works for so many people.

In a Big Book meeting this morning, I read page 93 that encourages us to stress the spiritual aspect of the program freely with a newcomer. If the newcomer is agnostic or atheist, I can assure them that they don’t have to agree with my conception of a Higher Power (which I choose to call God). The newcomer can use whatever concept of a Higher Power makes sense to them as long as they are willing to believe that the Higher Power is greater than themselves and that they can live by spiritual principles.

Over time in my early sobriety, my understanding and acceptance of the spiritual side of the program grew. I saw changes in me and others around me as we worked the steps and each other. So much of what I experienced and witnessed seemed to come from something beyond what I or others could do on our own. I believed I was seeing the Higher Power work in my life and in others.

My awakening to the spiritual occurred as I:

  • (Step 2) Came to believe that a Power greater than myself could restore me to sanity.
  • (Step 3) Made a decision to turn my will and my life over to the care of God as I understood Him.
  • (Step 5) Admitted to God, to myself, and to another human being the exact nature of my wrongs.
  • (Step 6) Was entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.
  • (Step 7) Humbly asked Him to remove my shortcomings.
  • (Step 11) Sought through prayer and meditation to improve my conscious contact with God as I understood Him, praying only for knowledge of His will for me and the power to carry that out.
  • And as already mentioned, (Step 12) Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, I try to carry this message to alcoholics, and to practice these principles in all my affairs.

Today, I am in contact with God often during the day. I continue to struggle to accept and follow his will in all things. The problems and pain I experience in life often can be seen as the direct result of trying to impose my will over what God seems to want for me. The Big Book reading today drove home why that could be true:

“To be vital, faith must be accompanied by self sacrifice and unselfish, constructure action.” Alcoholics Anonymous Fourth Edition, page 93, (C) 2001

Separating Religion from Spirituality

Organized religions and their members infuse spirituality into their worship practices and traditions. Twelve Step programs like Alcoholics Anonymous (A.A.) differentiate themselves from organized religious movements by considering themselves purely “spiritual” programs. What is the difference?

The A.A. pamphlet, “Many Paths to Spirituality,” states “With sharing that reflects the boundless range of belief (and non-belief) among A.A. members — including Buddhism, Islam, Native American faith traditions, and atheism and agnosticism — this pamphlet shows how Alcoholics Anonymous is a spiritual organization, rather than a religious one.”

How do Twelve Step programs and their members separate spirituality and religion while incorporating the former into their programs? By creating an environment where no one viewpoint is held above others and everyone has the freedom to decide how to incorporate spirituality into their individual programs.

My journey from religion to spirituality

My parents were Catholic and raised me in that religion. I respect their beliefs but while I do consider Jesus Christ to be my lord and saviour, many of the traditions and beliefs of that religion differ from what ring true to me. I also am a recovering alcoholic and drug addict whose life was saved by A.A. a few years before my soul was saved as a member of the Evangelical Lutheran Church of America (ELCA).

Because I was well acquainted with the concept of God growing up, I easily accepted the need for a “Higher Power” (God as I understand him) like the A.A. program suggests. Unlike the Christian religion, in which everyone believes in one triune God (Father, Son and Holy Spirit), A.A. members are free to choose their own conception of a Higher Power.

I’ve known atheists and agnostics who chose their A.A. group, nature, even a door knob as a “Higher Power.” In that way, they put their belief in something outside of themselves—and each had a different concept.

My journey to spirituality began when I stopped believing that my efforts impacted my relationship with my Higher Power. Rather than trying to be “good” to be accepted, I realized that God already loves me completely. So I find ways to connect with God to increase our connection like I do with family, friends and coworkers.

Spirituality in A.A. is much more complex than connecting with a Higher Power. We see the way that the program developed and spread as being influenced by some force greater than the sum of the people who helped to launch and maintain it.

I am the same spiritual person whether I am in a Christian worship service or in an A.A. meeting. I’ve been able to incorporate both into my life, while keeping the line well defined between the practice of religion and the working of the A.A. program.

Do you see a difference between religion and spiritual programs like A.A.?

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