
I’ve been sober for more than 39 years, so you know I’m not a spring chicken. Actually, you know that because I use phrases like, “spring chicken”!
I’m in my mid-60s and recently noticed changes to my body that resulted from heredity and life choices. I took a hearing test yesterday, and the results showed that my hearing is limited for sounds in the higher ranges. So when my wife or daughter say something, I sometimes know they said words, but I can’t distinguish them.
The other change is that a cataract is forming in my right eye. My vision is blurry in that eye.
Because I want to remain healthy and useful in this life, my immediate reaction is to fix those issues. Get hearing aids and have cataract surgery.
But in both cases, my doctors said, “Not yet.”
The ophthalmologist said the cataract has not progressed to the point of surgery. The audiologist said something similar. This is a good baseline that will help us determine when hearing loss requires hearing aids.
Notice that neither said yes nor no. They said, “not yet.”
That phrase is an important part of 12-Step recovery programs. When the still-suffering alcoholic/drug addict refuses to pick up our proffered bag of spiritual tools (the 12 Steps and the program of recovery), we see they are not ready…yet.
They may eventually reach the point of willingness to seek what we have and become willing to go to any length to get it. They just are not there…yet.
It took me many years to accept that trying to run my life on self-will wasn’t “curing” my insatiable desire to self-medicate on alcohol and drugs. I had to realize my life was unmanageable and I was powerless over those substances. Once I reached the point of acceptance—also known as hitting my bottom—it was time for me to begin my journey to sobriety.
How about you? Have you found yourself in a situation that you told yourself in the past you would never accept? The defeats and suffering that we call the “yets” are a natural progression of our disease. Just like my hearing loss and cataract are a natural progression of my body’s reactions to time, heredity and events.
Maybe it is time for you to stop the “yets” by saying, “yes” to getting help and “no” to the substances and people harming you.

